Anxiety is a common accompaniment to autism, and can manifest itself as ‘choking’, under-performing when under pressure to achieve a goal. Examples include under-performing in an exam or job interview due to anxiety at not getting the grade or job you want, even though you had the potential. A new study suggests that you can perform better in such circumstances by thinking you’ve already achieved the goal, and are performing to keep it rather than get it. For example, in an job interview, you can assume that you have the job, and are being interviewed for the right to keep the job. In an exam, assume you already have the desired grade, and are taking the exam to keep the grade. Read more about the study here.
Many on the autism spectrum find it annoying when certain things are not ‘just so’, including their attire. For me, the ‘sloppy collar’ was a minor irritant, especially if I’m wearing a polo shirt or other soft fabric. Thankfully, there’s a couple of tricks that may help with that. One is a collar shaper like the one in the video below:
Video credit: Stiff Collar Stay
To buy, go to www.stiffcollarstay.com
A good addition to the collar shaper are collar stays to keep the collar tips from curling. For collars that don’t have built-in pockets for stays (e.g. polo shirts), you can use stick-on stays like these from Wingmate:
Video credit: Wingmate
To buy, go to wingmate.us
Tying shoelaces can be a challenge to children with autism, and shoe-wearers of all kinds find it odd that we’re still fastening our shoes with bits of string in the 21st Century. Zubits has revolutionized the process with their magnetic closures, which you lace into once, and then fasten and unfasten with the magnetic buckle. They come in a variety of colors and work with any standard lace-up shoe.
Video by Zubits
Negative thoughts are a recurring problem for anyone, but especially for many on the autism spectrum. Research has shown that keeping a daily record of positive things that happen to you (even small things) can help counter-balance negative thinking. In the video above from happierdotcom, Dr. Martin Seligman explains more about the Three Good Things Exercise.
For some autistics, reading can be a chore, especially if they have other conditions like ADD that often accompany autism. Blinkist is a useful service that summarizes popular non-fiction books into small chunks you can read in about 15 minutes, on your computer, tablet or smartphone. It’s a subscription service, but they offer a free trial. Try it out here!
When you were a kid it was a lot easier. In college you almost had to be trying not to make friends. But then you’re an adult. You get busy with work. Your friends get busy with work. People get married. Have kids. And pretty soon being “close” means a text message twice a year.…
Many autistics have trouble learning the ‘unspoken rules’ of making friends. This article at Business Insider may help, as it makes some of those rules more explicit.